Courtship may not be the answer for you but neither is Fifty Shades of “Degradation”.
That was the intro to my post last week. Since then I have seen multiple campaigns online that stand on the same side as me and I am thrilled to see so many people out there taking a chance and standing for what they believe in!
There is a massive facebook/twitter campaign going on right now – against the heinous 50 Shades of… books AND movie!
I am using the campaign’s hashtag in my title above – #NoGreyNoWay. You can click on one of the links below for more info…
You should be aware that some of the posts on these sites contain graphic information – as many women and men are sharing their own personal experiences about past abuse.
Please stand with us as we spread the word to friends, family and strangers. If you truly care – you will want to do everything possible to protect others from the damaging and devastating effects of this series!
As I said last week, I have not – and I will not – read the book (or watch the movie)!
I know that there are times that Christian leaders feel the need to read or watch what they are begging their followers to oppose – so that they have all the information they need to present a well-argued case.
But in this case, in my opinion, that is a very bad idea! Exposing your mind to ANYTHING of this nature is just inviting the devil to create a foothold in your very soul – which he will then use to push more sin into your life.
Allowing this story into your head allows it into your heart, your mind, your soul!
You think you can handle it. You tell yourself that you need to be able to make an informed argument. You tell yourself that you need to have ammo to feed that argument. You tell yourself that you can’t properly argue against something you haven’t read or watched personally…
But this series is FAR TOO DANGEROUS to adhere to these rationales.
I am here today to ask you to stand with me and millions of others
and put a stop to this movie right now!
We need to send a strong message to the makers of the movie. They HAVE TO KNOW we are serious!
They HAVE TO KNOW that they will not tear down strong women… men… families… marriages!
They HAVE TO KNOW that we will not lay down and let them roll right over us!
We will stand up for our daughters, our sisters, our mothers, our friends! We will not allow someone to tell us that it is OK for a man to mistreat a woman – even if she agrees to it!
An abuser is very skilled at convincing you that you asked for it, wanted it, enjoy it.
IT IS A LIE!
No one has the right to treat you like a thing!
No one has the right to treat you like trash!
No one has the right to degrade you and drag you down!
An abuser will tell you that you are not enjoying yourself because you aren’t submitting in the right way.
The greatest trick the devil ever played on women was to make them think submission equals abuse… and then to make them think that choosing to be abused is not abuse but is instead, empowerment – that it is fun, exciting, sexy…
Choosing it does not make it LOVE!
Choosing it does not make it RIGHT!
Choosing it does not make it ENJOYABLE!
It doesn’t matter if it’s consensual or not. It doesn’t matter if it’s by choice or not. It doesn’t matter if it’s “fiction” or not!
From what I understand about the series, the whole consent situation is murky at best anyway – as miss Ana was under the influence of alcohol at the time she “gave consent” – Men have gone to prison for less!
Abuse and degradation are nothing to take lightly or as something that is OK as long as we’re talking about two adults or even as long as we are talking about fiction!
It is NEVER OK – not in a fictional story, not in a movie, and certainly not in reality!
NO I have NOT and NO I will NOT read or watch Fifty Shades…! – CLICK TO TWEET!
Please say NO to 50 Shades… this Valentine’s Day! – CLICK TO TWEET!
Stand with us – Make this Valentine’s Day a day of TRUE romance! – CLICK TO TWEET!
Remember the true meaning of Valentine’s Day this year – Say no to 50 Shades of yuck! – CLICK TO TWEET!
Tweet using the Hashtag #NoGreyNoWay to show your support! If there was a way to put it into my tweets above, I would have but I don’t know the HTML for that.
And yes… I will be back next week with more!
© Rachel L. Miller 2015
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