“Mama” was not harmed in the making of this film.

OK… THANK GOD for the ability to change your mind. My mind to be more specific.

I said a long time ago… when I first saw the ads… that I would NEVER watch “Mom’s Night Out”… NEVER!

And I want to take a moment right now to Thank God for giving me the ability to change my mind. Because I rented the movie this afternoon and we watched it this evening (when I was taking a break from editing) and let me just say… WOW!

I mean WOW!

If you are a mother, Grandmother, ever had a mother… WATCH this movie! BUY this movie! Then buy a copy for your mother, go over and give her a big hug and watch it with her – afterwards telling her what an amazing, wonderful, terrific, fantastic, BLESSING she is to you and everyone around her!

 

Let me just say that I am weird. I am, I’m not afraid to admit it.

I am not one of those moms who ever desires a “night out”.

In fact, I home-school and I work from home so I spend twenty-four hours a day with my children.

And that is how I like it!

When I hear other moms talking about how much they enjoy having time away from their children, I actually feel sorry for them. I’m not judging, I just feel sorry that they are not able to see the amazing gifts that are right in front of them.

CHILDREN ARE A BLESSING!

I was told by multiple doctors that I would never have children.

Now I have two beautiful, healthy, happy, intelligent and incredibly energetic children so clearly the doctors were wrong.

But that is mostly because God had a different plan for me, a plan he did not choose to let those doctors in on.

And I know what you’re thinking right now. You’re thinking I feel the way I do about my children because I was told I couldn’t have them and then I did and so I am a clingy, freaky, weird, smothering mommy dearest.

NOPE!

Could NOT be further from the truth.

There were times when my son was a baby, at 3am, when I had slept a grand total of oh I don’t know… 20 minutes, after feeding, rocking, playing, bouncing and changing him… and he was STILL screaming at the top of his lungs – that I wanted to be anywhere but where I was at that moment.

And there were times when I watched my sweet little girl, my six-year-old girl, my baby, go off to ballet without a care in the world, telling me “I’m good mom, you can go.” that I wanted to cry. I should have had more time! I should have had YEARS before she was ready to let go! Right!

Wrong.

They are as different as two children can be and raising them has been an enormous adventure and I cherish every single memory! I haven’t loved every moment and I don’t know that I want to repeat some of them… ever… again, but I do cherish every memory I have with my children.

I’ve been through the drawing on the wall, the broken nose when your toddler doesn’t want you to pick him up, the screaming princess who doesn’t like that you dropped her onto the soft dirt so she wouldn’t tumble down the concrete steps with you, the screaming, the biting, the food-throwing, the spit up on every single item of clothing you own, did I mention the screaming – OK I did, good… oh yeah and the amazing magical poo that somehow misses the diaper entirely ad lands on your brand new Easter outfit!

But I would not trade any one of those moments because… along with them came the first time they each said the word “Mama”, the first hug, the first kiss, the wet and sticky kisses I get every day, the “Love You”s and the sweet little fingers that sign from across the room or through the window when I run to the store by myself to get milk. (and yes, I miss them – even when I’m only two blocks away – I’m a freak, I know)

 

So I don’t judge anyone who wants to be away from their children… I just feel for them. And then I pray that someday they will realize just how amazing those children are. And hopefully before they have grandchildren – because that’s when most people seem to get it.

When they’ve already missed the chance… when their time is up… when they are trying to tell their children to enjoy this time with their kids because they grow up so fast.

Yeah, they know!

 

But I know too and I am so blessed!

I was not going to watch “Mom’s Night Out” because I was sure it was one of those kind of movies. One of the movies that tells moms they NEED “me-time”.

SO NOT!

In fact, I’m gonna go return my redbox rental tomorrow and then I’m going to go buy this amazing movie! Because this is a movie I am going to want to watch over and over and over again!

And each time, I will cry a little, laugh hysterically and then go hug my mom and tell her how amazing she is!

And then I will hug my kids and know that I am doubly blessed!

 

Oh, and when you watch the movie – watch it to the very very end of the credits… trust me!

 

GOD bless you and Good Night!

© Rachel L Miller 2014

Turning the tables…

A few days ago, my loving mother posted all about me and how wonderful she thinks I am… what she failed to mention is that everything about me that is even remotely awesome, I learned from HER!

 

This post is to honor

Donna J. Mynatt

Donna is an amazing author, writer, influencer, reviewer, blogger, motivator and editor… not to mention Mother and Grandmother!

I have not actually yet told Mom that she’s my favorite author because she only recently let me read some of her novel: Emma’s Christmas Quilt. Last year, when she wrote it, she was very sensitive about letting me read even little parts of it so I never got the full impact of just how talented she is.

When I told her that she was talented on the level of Jennifer Beckstrand, Amy Clipston, Shelley Shepard Gray, and several other of our favorite authors, she clearly did not believe me.

She thinks I’m biased because she’s my mother but I never hesitate to tell the truth. I’m a firm believer that you should always tell someone the truth so she should know that I would not compare her with such fantastic authors if I didn’t mean it!

I could not be more proud that she is my mom… and I can’t wait for her novels to be published!

Emma’s Christmas Quilt could easily be an entire series and although, I’m not a huge fan of suspense, I will proudly read, review and promote every single one!

Donna J Mynatt, Holly Michael

She became a single mom (not by her choice) before it was common and endured quite a bit of anger, disappointment and judgement from her family because of it.

Mom always put our own needs ahead of her own, even sometimes having issues at work because she would not hesitate to talk us through something that had befallen us during our day (and in the way of children…we simply could not wait a half hour until she returned home to tell her all about it).

In 2008, my husband decided that he could no longer be in our relationship and mom immediately decided that the children and I would move in with her.

Ever since that day, mom has heard from friends, co-workers and family members that she needs to “make me get a job” and “put those kids in school” constantly.

I am so very blessed (and so are the children) that she knows they are thriving in home-school and we don’t need a change. Home-school may not be for everyone but it works for us. And we are blessed mom knows it too!

I also know that we drive her crazy at times with our mess and clutter but she loves us despite it and we find ourselves trying harder because she doesn’t fuss or give us a hard time over it.

Donna J Mynatt, Amy Clipston… and, of course, Jessie.

I would also like to point out what an amazing person mom is!

At an age when most people are contemplating an empty nest and thinking about retirement plans, my AMAZING mother decided to return to college, where she earned multiple certifications and two degrees; including her Masters in some sort of communications and technology that is way over my head!

However, when she could have taken a job that would require long hours or traveling away from home, she decided that spending time with her family was a much better choice so she works for the state of Tennessee – in a public service job. And she’s wonderful at it! Every co-worker we meet tells us what a gem she is (of course, I already knew that!)

I know I don’t tell her often enough just how much I appreciate her! Too often we don’t take time to thank those closest to us for the difference they make in our lives, hoping that they know how we feel.

Thank you, Mom, for being such an awesome person, mom and grandmother!

I appreciate you so much more than I can ever truly say!

You wrote a novel when you didn’t really have the time – mostly to inspire me! And now, because I’ve put your work out there, you are editing and finishing that novel so that it’s ready for an agent to look over!

Thank you for encouraging me, for not getting angry with me when I picked apart your suggestions and then for continuing to edit my work… even though I was stubborn as a mule.

Thank you for participating in the late night writing sessions, timed word sprints, and for always motivating me to reach for my dreams!

Thank you for putting up with my grumpiness, moodiness and for all the mornings you could have slept in but instead got up with me and made breakfast while I followed my characters’ leadings!

I can’t say enough about how much time and energy you put into being a mother, a grandmother, a teacher and a friend! You are the best of all of those that I can possibly imagine.

IMG_5399bSee what a terrific Grandma she is!

You are an amazing person… and I am thrilled to be able to call you my best friend!

I know my life is better because of you and I can not imagine another person who loves my children as much as you do!

God bless you, MOMMY.

 

©Rachel L. Miller 2014