Turning the tables…

A few days ago, my loving mother posted all about me and how wonderful she thinks I am… what she failed to mention is that everything about me that is even remotely awesome, I learned from HER!

 

This post is to honor

Donna J. Mynatt

Donna is an amazing author, writer, influencer, reviewer, blogger, motivator and editor… not to mention Mother and Grandmother!

I have not actually yet told Mom that she’s my favorite author because she only recently let me read some of her novel: Emma’s Christmas Quilt. Last year, when she wrote it, she was very sensitive about letting me read even little parts of it so I never got the full impact of just how talented she is.

When I told her that she was talented on the level of Jennifer Beckstrand, Amy Clipston, Shelley Shepard Gray, and several other of our favorite authors, she clearly did not believe me.

She thinks I’m biased because she’s my mother but I never hesitate to tell the truth. I’m a firm believer that you should always tell someone the truth so she should know that I would not compare her with such fantastic authors if I didn’t mean it!

I could not be more proud that she is my mom… and I can’t wait for her novels to be published!

Emma’s Christmas Quilt could easily be an entire series and although, I’m not a huge fan of suspense, I will proudly read, review and promote every single one!

Donna J Mynatt, Holly Michael

She became a single mom (not by her choice) before it was common and endured quite a bit of anger, disappointment and judgement from her family because of it.

Mom always put our own needs ahead of her own, even sometimes having issues at work because she would not hesitate to talk us through something that had befallen us during our day (and in the way of children…we simply could not wait a half hour until she returned home to tell her all about it).

In 2008, my husband decided that he could no longer be in our relationship and mom immediately decided that the children and I would move in with her.

Ever since that day, mom has heard from friends, co-workers and family members that she needs to “make me get a job” and “put those kids in school” constantly.

I am so very blessed (and so are the children) that she knows they are thriving in home-school and we don’t need a change. Home-school may not be for everyone but it works for us. And we are blessed mom knows it too!

I also know that we drive her crazy at times with our mess and clutter but she loves us despite it and we find ourselves trying harder because she doesn’t fuss or give us a hard time over it.

Donna J Mynatt, Amy Clipston… and, of course, Jessie.

I would also like to point out what an amazing person mom is!

At an age when most people are contemplating an empty nest and thinking about retirement plans, my AMAZING mother decided to return to college, where she earned multiple certifications and two degrees; including her Masters in some sort of communications and technology that is way over my head!

However, when she could have taken a job that would require long hours or traveling away from home, she decided that spending time with her family was a much better choice so she works for the state of Tennessee – in a public service job. And she’s wonderful at it! Every co-worker we meet tells us what a gem she is (of course, I already knew that!)

I know I don’t tell her often enough just how much I appreciate her! Too often we don’t take time to thank those closest to us for the difference they make in our lives, hoping that they know how we feel.

Thank you, Mom, for being such an awesome person, mom and grandmother!

I appreciate you so much more than I can ever truly say!

You wrote a novel when you didn’t really have the time – mostly to inspire me! And now, because I’ve put your work out there, you are editing and finishing that novel so that it’s ready for an agent to look over!

Thank you for encouraging me, for not getting angry with me when I picked apart your suggestions and then for continuing to edit my work… even though I was stubborn as a mule.

Thank you for participating in the late night writing sessions, timed word sprints, and for always motivating me to reach for my dreams!

Thank you for putting up with my grumpiness, moodiness and for all the mornings you could have slept in but instead got up with me and made breakfast while I followed my characters’ leadings!

I can’t say enough about how much time and energy you put into being a mother, a grandmother, a teacher and a friend! You are the best of all of those that I can possibly imagine.

IMG_5399bSee what a terrific Grandma she is!

You are an amazing person… and I am thrilled to be able to call you my best friend!

I know my life is better because of you and I can not imagine another person who loves my children as much as you do!

God bless you, MOMMY.

 

©Rachel L. Miller 2014

That dangerous pedestal. (Yes that’s spelled right… I checked…I know though – it looks wrong)

Recently I have witnessed two different men, whom I held in high esteem for many years, knocked off their pedestals… so to speak.

Aside from being quite upsetting, it was very eye-opening as well. There are several morals to these experiences but I am only going to focus on two of them.

Let’s see if you can figure them out before I tell you…

 

Experience # 1: (Due to the sensitive nature of this event and to protect an innocent man from further abuse, I will NOT be using any names.) 

In the first instance I speak of, I watched a great, devout man of God fall from his pedestal – or it might even be more accurate to say that he was pushed.

And isn’t it interesting that all it really takes in these instances is the whisper of impropriety to get people guessing and after that, all it takes is one (weak or not) accusation to make everyone 100% sure they’re guilty… unless you tend to be good at reading people and KNOW the person well enough to KNOW they’re not guilty!

It took years and it took lots of whispers but it really only took one well-placed, well-timed accusation to put an end to this man’s career and ministry. And though he is still living, I would imagine having your purpose snatched from you, the only thing you’ve done for more than half your life, feels a bit like dying – only he’s stuck here in this world while going through it.

No Heaven for him yet… just the half-life that is left here on Earth.

JUST FOR THE RECORD: I believe this man is innocent of what he was accused of! I know he’s just a man and men make mistakes but I do not believe that was one of them!

Nevertheless, he has been knocked from his (figurative) pedestal and there will be no getting back up on it – no matter how anyone tries.

 

MORAL 1: When you are in the public eye, you must be careful of every word spoken and every action done. You even have to be careful of your thoughts because they quickly become words and those words become your philosophy and that philosophy defines your character.

 

 

Experience #2: (and this one was very personal for me – in this case I feel it is important to actually keep their name confidential in order to protect myself from potential backlash)

For years I was a fan. This was someone to look up to, someone who had been through the type of beginnings I had and come out the other side successful and prosperous! A hero! A role-model! Someone to inspire me!

I can do what he did! Or can I?

No. In fact, I can not and will not. I won’t! I won’t! No matter what the world wants from me – GOD is leading my words… NOT the world!

This was a tough one for me. And this one was even more difficult because the pedestal he fell from in this instance was very personal to me. The world at large still has him up there and they show no sign of demanding he step down – in fact it may be that his behavior pushes him even higher in their eyes…

In the interest of anonymity, I will only say this – the writer I am referring to has a façade and then they have the truth. And in discovering the truth, my illusions have been destroyed because the  façade is their outward appearance – a claim that they follow and believe the teachings of CHRIST!

The truth is that they are one of millions, absolute millions, that have decided for themselves that God is not quite as all-powerful as the Bible paints Him to be so they pick and chose what they want to believe and their lives (and writing in this instance) reflect that.

MORAL 2: Writers have to be very careful about what they write – especially where that writing disagrees with their beliefs. Writers are held up as heroes so many times and what we write has an effect on our readers.

If we are peddling nonsense, it WILL cause problems with someone, somewhere, at some point. And eventually, enough people are going to see through to the truth and knock you off that pedestal.

Or else… one day… you will see the error of your ways but it will be too late to do anything about it because the generation who grew up reading your work has now passed that on to their children with the admonition that YOU KNEW what you were talking about!

 

 

OK. I’m done. Rant over. Please don’t be too angry at me. I had a very rough day yesterday and in the wee hours of the morning amid sleeplessness, these thoughts were going over and over in my head and I just had to get some of it out so I could get some writing done.

 

Have a GREAT weekend and Good Day!

GOD BLESS!

©Rachel L Miller 2014